Hmm, something my friend commented, he said “you say that as if being single was bad”.
Well, no, not being single per se. But I think gaining some romance experience is good. Not to say I’m a know-it-all (hardly by far), but there are highs and lows to romance that isn’t replicated in other experiences in life. There is nothing quite like holding hands with someone, kissing, having sex, spending a late evening in a world made up of two.
I think that the longer one goes without it, the mythic qualities of romance become increasingly conspicuous. It’s best to live with a more down to earth view of things, I think. Getting to the point of “so it’s like that” is a good thing, in my view.
And anyway, I prefer to know what I like and what I don’t through actual experience than some nebulous half-formed expectation.
For me, what I learned is:
1) Maybe it hurts not to be reciprocated but there’s nothing like love to make you feel deeply and more alive.
2) Tactile encounters with another human being is very nice.
3) It’s beneficial to experience negative emotions just so you know how it feels. That way you don’t underestimate it as much in the future.
4) Minor but it helps you read poetry better. Hahah.
So what I want to say is, there are many enjoyable things you can do with another person. I don’t mean that one must be attached but at least go date someone, go out, have a great time together. It’s pretty fun and you have nice memories to look back on even if things don’t work out.
Is being single bad?
Hmm, something my friend commented, he said “you say that as if being single was bad”.
Well, no, not being single per se. But I think gaining some romance experience is good. Not to say I’m a know-it-all (hardly by far), but there are highs and lows to romance that isn’t replicated in other experiences in life. There is nothing quite like holding hands with someone, kissing, having sex, spending a late evening in a world made up of two.
I think that the longer one goes without it, the mythic qualities of romance become increasingly conspicuous. It’s best to live with a more down to earth view of things, I think. Getting to the point of “so it’s like that” is a good thing, in my view.
And anyway, I prefer to know what I like and what I don’t through actual experience than some nebulous half-formed expectation.
For me, what I learned is:
1) Maybe it hurts not to be reciprocated but there’s nothing like love to make you feel deeply and more alive.
2) Tactile encounters with another human being is very nice.
3) It’s beneficial to experience negative emotions just so you know how it feels. That way you don’t underestimate it as much in the future.
4) Minor but it helps you read poetry better. Hahah.
So what I want to say is, there are many enjoyable things you can do with another person. I don’t mean that one must be attached but at least go date someone, go out, have a great time together. It’s pretty fun and you have nice memories to look back on even if things don’t work out.
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