Someone asked me, “So did you chase after your crush?”
I didn’t really want to answer because it’s still a sore spot so I didn’t say anything much.
But it kinda hurt when the person said, “See, you girls don’t ever do anything to go after boys.”
That person is wrong. And why should my experience prove that all girls do not chase after boys? It’s so unfair to be put down just like that.
I tried and was rebuffed consistently until I didn’t want to try anymore. Is it wrong to be less persistent? Does being less persistent make me lesser than a guy (who is supposedly more so)? Does knowing when to stop mean that I like him any less? Why can’t I just stay happy about my decision not to do anything?
I’ve never tried living my life to prove others wrong although how I’ve developed in my beliefs may not be so mainstream. So I guess it makes me sad that this person said something like this, as if I am expected to live up to some idea they have about life which may in reality not be as simple and clear cut as they would like.
That’s the problem with thinking in aggregates. You miss the individual trees and only see the forest… after a while, all forests are alike.
Yes, I am sad that the person missed me but more so when the forest has overwhelmed them.
Feeling unhappy
Someone asked me, “So did you chase after your crush?”
I didn’t really want to answer because it’s still a sore spot so I didn’t say anything much.
But it kinda hurt when the person said, “See, you girls don’t ever do anything to go after boys.”
That person is wrong. And why should my experience prove that all girls do not chase after boys? It’s so unfair to be put down just like that.
I tried and was rebuffed consistently until I didn’t want to try anymore. Is it wrong to be less persistent? Does being less persistent make me lesser than a guy (who is supposedly more so)? Does knowing when to stop mean that I like him any less? Why can’t I just stay happy about my decision not to do anything?
I’ve never tried living my life to prove others wrong although how I’ve developed in my beliefs may not be so mainstream. So I guess it makes me sad that this person said something like this, as if I am expected to live up to some idea they have about life which may in reality not be as simple and clear cut as they would like.
That’s the problem with thinking in aggregates. You miss the individual trees and only see the forest… after a while, all forests are alike.
Yes, I am sad that the person missed me but more so when the forest has overwhelmed them.
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