I was in HarborFront/Vivocity today and saw this humongous queue for donuts.
I took this picture on the other side of the atrium…
>_> Must be a Singaporean thing…
In other news, Gabriel added me to his facebook and Windows Live. Heheh. I find it amusing that the conversation (d)evolved so quickly to sex (or lack thereof). The closest comparison I can think of is Pee! with whom I talked a lot of nonsense (sex, lack of or otherwise) with too. Hmm. But he’s not anything like Pee! heheh… Hooray (somewhat) anonymous MSN chats!
I wonder why I’m always talking to guys on MSN. Sure, I have plenty of female contacts on my list but I never seem to hold extended conversations with them (except huey & co.) Is there some fundamental reason for this pattern that I can discern? Hmmm….
Is it because I have more male friends and more female acquaintances? No, that doesn’t quite work, some male acquaintances are great chat partners.
*Draws up a list of people with whom I speak with regularly*
No, it’s because the people I seek out or those who talk to me are usually guys. The only two female friends I have are XZ and huey. OMG, I’m a social pariah with girls! WTH!
Dunno what else to say about this subject.
I was looking at the Singapore craigslist the other day and it’s weird but some US men actually post personals asking for brides. WTH!? Then I thought, I wonder if it’s ever worked. It seems like a longshot. Consider Singapore. It is thousands of miles from the US. Meeting up would be a problem. So who would answer?! And even if someone expresses interest, they should wonder, is this woman who’s coming to meet me some kind of scammer/gold-digger/green card wannabe? I wonder what kind of a relationship they want to build out of a foreign bride (sex? companionship? maid? true love?)
I remember we once had a reading for my sociology exposure module where someone did a study on long distance relationships between foreign men and Thai prostitutes (or girlfriends as the men would like to think). The study was largely based on letters between them and interviews with the girlfriends. To simplify, the men often write to their girlfriends about this or that but it’s usually a one-sided emotional investment. It’s revealed that the girlfriends actually keep more than one boyfriend most of the time and that their letters are written by some ghostwriter cum translator. More often than not, they ask about wiring of money (because of difficulties) and such. There were also some extracts from the letters which showed how lonely these men are (some were threatening too). It’s not like they are unaware of what’s really going on but they really want to believe the fantasy of a girlfriend to be true.
Maybe I don’t really bring out the pathos of the whole situation. But there are a lot of people who are not content in loneliness. And I wonder if the world would be a better place when everyone learns the art of being alone. Would that help?
Some dating advice from YJ (in my own words):
- Establish a relationship with the mark.
- Start out as friends.
- Express interest by planning to spend more time together.
- See how it goes. If b/gf material, head straight on. If not, get out.
- (Hold hands when it feels right.)
I have problems with step 3. Hehh. I feel it’s really irritating to spend more time with just one person. On the flip side, I would always enjoy my outings with people I haven’t seen in some time. I don’t see myself as a PT. Ahhhah… that’s why I’ll never get a bf. I hate the whole PT-ness of coupledom. (Maybe that’s why I think KK is so perfect. I enjoy his company and he’s never around for long. I am exceedingly logical in my choice of crushes. I mean, I enjoy the company of any number of guys but he’s the one who’s not a clinger. Maybe that’s it. I can’t get interested in other guys because I’ve been holding other people up to his standard. Man, I have weird ideals. And I have to stop this obsession with rationalizing all this “why I like my old crush”.)
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Wah, thanks ah.
i’d love to be the ghostwriter/translator. how cool is that? I can just simply write back rubbish. it’d be so fun!
and yes, stop obsessing about your (not at all) old crush. He’s like, still in ur mind all the time lah. You need a life.
And, glad to be one of the two girls in ur life whom u chat. when (and usually I don’t go online nowadays) I’m online, you’re usually the only one who talks to me without the idea that I’m supposed to help you do something.. My usual conversation with others always start like this:
The Person: Hey, are you free?
Me: Yes?
The Person: Can you help me… (do a survey/find out some info/send me stuff prof sent us years ago, so that I can finally study*)
*delete whatever not applicable.
G: I like your nonsense, you pass ;)
Here he is in econs tutorial, J2.
Darn, I should have taken a few more shots, heheh.
I don’t want you to be only 1 of 2 girls in my life. I need to get a harem, hahah.
Sigh, why people don’t want to talk to you? You’re very fun, heheh…
haha too bad we don’t have any photos of the IT folks clowning around. (Didn’t anyone ask when u snapped that shot?)
That was after you guys have left already and when we were in Year 2. Kenneth was finally attending lessons more or less regularly. Heheh… It should be near to the prelims because, iirc, that was the class when we were doing the TYS as review.